GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (WOTV) - We've entered a brand new phase in our house: playing favorites. My almost 2-year-old son is all about mommy, leaving his poor daddy in the dust. He's really hitting the 2-year-old testing the limits phase, which is normal, but I can't begin to say how frustrating it is for me to see the hurt look on my husband's face every time he walks up to our son who immediately says, "NO dada!"
Everyone who witnesses this situation gives the same cookie cutter response, "It's just a phase, he'll grow out of it." But as the people who are going through this phase every day, we need tactics to try. Which means I need your help! I don't feel like it's right to just ignore the situation and let him get away with being so hurtful.
My husband's number one goal in life, since the day I met him, is to be a dad. He's a second grade teacher and loves kids and they love him. He's fun, nurturing, outgoing and a wonderful, very involved father on every level. He just doesn't understand why our son "doesn't like him" or "doesn't want to be around him".
Here's the catch. As being a teacher goes, my husband has the summer off and he and our son spend the entire summer months together. This year they've done so much fun stuff, the museum, the zoo, the park, walks, baseball, skyzone and the list goes on. During their days together while I'm at work, not only have they had a blast but the negativity just simply isn't there. Our son doesn't push his dad away, he doesn't say "no dada", or pinch or kick or push. He cuddles with him, plays with him and sits in his lap. BUT the minute I come home or Grandma or Poppa are around or his favorite babysitter, Daddy immediately becomes chop liver. Not only does he ignore his dad, but he runs away or if Daddy picks him up he hits or pinches his face or pulls his hair.
We've tried time out and we've tried being calm in our reactions but nothing is working. If you've experienced parenting favoritism please put your strategies in the comments below or send me your favorite articles on the issue. We're looking for new ideas to try so that the can have the father and son relationship that everyone has envisioned. I just want our happy little family to be all smiles again. HELP!
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