Grand Rapids, Mich. (WOTV) - Nearly every woman who goes through a divorce asks themselves the same questions. How you answer them and whether you get stuck in the "whoa is me" cycle can really impact how long it takes to get over it and move on.
"What did I do wrong?" It is good to reflect on how we might have done something better and recognize our part in a failed relationship, but to agonize over it and blame yourself does not help. Understand that divorce is rarely due to one person's mistakes or actions. At the point of divorce, it is what it is. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, accept the reality and plan on what you want in the future and how to get it. Focusing on the future will help you handle the stress of divorce and slough off the negatives while looking toward your goal.
"I will never find anyone else and end up alone and lonely." Realize you are at the bottom looking up and that means things can and will get better. You are divorcing because it did not work so now you have an opportunity to find someone more suitable. Will you find that someone? A lot depends on your outlook. If you are pessimistic and negative and are sure you will be alone, you probably will be. If you are optimistic and positive your light will shine and everyone will see it.
Divorce is a loss. You will have dark days. You go through a grieving for your marriage, your life, your dreams for the relationship. Asking these questions is normal, but if you can eventually turn them in a positive direction, you are on your way to recovery.
**Disclaimer: Nothing herein constitutes legal advice.
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